I have been confused for seven months with my wife, and i know that I am at fault?
Hi, last year I came home drunk and high, and i hit my wife because she was already mad at me. I was arrested on that night. i spent one day in jail. After i got out of jail I decided to get some help for me and to save my marriage. Ever sinse I have been helping my wife the bills and working on my recovery and spending alot of time in church classes. I have been clean for seven months. My wife took out a restraining order for one year. she is also in co-dependency classes. For the first four months of the restraining order, my wife allowed me to spend time with her and my stepkids. I would come over and pick up my stepson every weekend and go over there every evening after work. Every week I would give my wife 0.00 for the bills and all I had left is gas money and food money. this went on for four months, I lost my job last october and thats when everything changed. My wife became more bitter. She stopped talking to me, she went to the church and told them that she had a restraining order out on me and I should not be there. the restraing order states that we can talk about financial obligations, and yes i would talk about the bills in the e-mails but i would also ask my wife about our marriage. I still help my wife, I am paying for two trucks that I drive that are in her name, the insurance for her car and the two trucks and the cell phone bill that we have and if I have extra I would give her money for misc. items. i also, pay for credit card bills. she is constantly blaming me for ruining her credit, and maxing out credit cards. She has just recently filed an affidavit saying that I violated the restraining order by not just discussing bills in the e-mails. my wife is’nt telling anything about a divorce. why did’nt she file for a divorce while she was down to the court house as many of times that she was? I am really getting my life together and she claims in the affidavit that she is scared of me and she don’nt want to see me, and that I am takinf advantage of her because she also has been out work for 8 months. I work a part-time job from 2:00A.m. In the morning until 8:30a.m and i am doing all I can to help my wife with what I got. I can;nt even give my parents rent where I am living. i am not complaining about helping my wife. i just want answers to this situation. Why don’nt she file for a divorce if she is so scared of me, I am no danger to her. i love my wife and I have accepted full responsibility for my actions. i have seven months clean and doing better every day. Should I continue to hold to my marriage? or is it over even she is’nt telling anything? Please help me.
